Life Lessons: The Stranger Part 4

For those of you that have been keeping up, we've been writing about "The Stranger" for a while now. He had so many lessons to share and it is not over yet! If you have missed, here is Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3. Here is the continuation of The Stranger.

You can't change anyone but yourself.  You can only change yourself. The Stranger would always leave his dirty clothes in the bathroom. His wife finally learned that nagging him won't change anything. She put the laundry basket in the bathroom. Everyone is happy.

Pick and choose what you want to believe. We hear things everyday but we should question and not always believe that people are right or speaking the truth. Research before you believe what someone says.

Just because you listen, does not mean that you are not participating.  The Stranger told us a story about this man he knew in Hawaii. The Stranger always talked to... well, strangers while waiting for his wife shopping. He made conversation with other people that we waiting too. There was always this man that listened for years. Finally, over time, this man opened up to the Stranger. Even though he did not speak up in the earlier years, he was still participating because he was listening to conversation. In this story (which was a rather long story), we also learned that you can make something out of what you have and love to do.

There are Four Agreements:

1. written (contracts, etc)
2.  oral (things you talk about with others)
3. knowledgeable (for example, you know that mom will get mad if you aren't at the dinner table at 5:30)
4. nature (you can't go through walls, can't jump off building with out dying: we are limited by nature)

 ***if you break the agreement, someone will get mad. Learn to talk about changing the agreement.

Make wishes and change your stories. Wish for things to happen and make them true. Even if it seems simple do it. This works! You just need to believe it will. Picture it in your head, what happens, how it feels, visualize and feel. I once told Michael when pulling into a parking lot to go close to the building because someone will be leaving their spot. Believe it or not, someone did.


The biggest lesson: Be honest, open, and kind.
We all make mistakes, but we have to realize that we made those mistakes and forgive ourselves. 

This is the last of the Life Lessons with the Stranger.  It was an amazing random encounter. His main ideas were based on Enlightenment and how to find it. He says that we are now on our journey and can never go back. Thank you for keeping up with the long series of The Stranger. Keep coming back for more Life Lessons with LTL! (:


This post is written by Karel and Michel.
Adapted from: a random encounter with The Stranger 
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Life Lessons: The Stranger Part 3

A few weeks ago, we had blogged about our experience with The Stranger. We learned many life lessons by said stranger. Here is the continuation of our conversation with The Stranger.

You have the power to heal yourself. The Stranger asked if we had physical pain that were bothering us at the time. Michael mentioned this continuous pain he had in his back for over 6 months. The Stranger had Michael sit neutral and close his eyes and imagine the pain. Where is it? (But don't touch it.) What color is it? Size of a golf ball, baseball, or football? Then he had him imagine there was a spout at the top of his head and emptied at his toes. The Stranger had him imagine that colored water was pouring in and washing the pain away. Of course, if you have pain you need to be proactive and notice what you need to do. The Stranger told us a story about how he helped heal his daughter. It turns out that she seriously hurt herself and didn't come back until months later.

Fears are rooted within yourself. I told The Stranger about a scary incident that had happened to me. I was manifesting what could have happened in my mind creating fear. He suggested to immerse myself in that fear. It involved the dark, so he told me to walk around outside in the dark. It makes you feel powerful. Also, do you notice that when you are fearful all you think about is that fear? He suggested to think about the pink elephant. How big is it? Does it have eyelashes? Also, have some sort of protection that can make you feel more at ease. I carry around pepper spray with me.

For women: Just because you are a woman, don't give away your power. Women are powerful. If you give someone the power, then you are giving them permission to make you feel that way. Stand up for yourself! This though obviously also goes with men (, but it connected with my last story).

Change your words. Say "would you" and not "can you" when asking questions. You are taking away the power to say "no." When you say "would you," you give people the choice to say "no" or "yes". This is better.

We hope you have been enjoying our series of The Stranger. Hold on! There is still more to come! If you missed the previous parts of the Stranger, Check out Part 1 here and Part 2 here.

This post is written by Karel.
Adapted from: a peculiar encounter in our life together
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